The feeling of being drained comes from trying to help people who are not ready to change or who don’t want to put in the necessary effort.
This is because you have a “savior complex”. Your desire to save the world and become a saviour.
And you must avoid this because it is a massive drain on your valuable energy.
We should only serve people who have the right to learn this knowledge and who are ready to get results- Adhikaris.
We need to look for their qualities (their leverage), not their weaknesses.
If you focus only on solving people’s problems by pointing out their gaps, you attract those who are insecure and underconfident, and they become “energy vampires” who will suck your energy dry.
Instead, you need to clearly define the specific qualities (Lakshanas) your audience must have so they can actually benefit from your expertise, product or service.
This is called Adhikari Lakshanas.
For example, for my programs, the founder must,
- be able to create results,
- have a deep desire to help others,
- and be ready to take action even when things are uncertain.
If they don’t have those Lakshanas, I know I cannot help them, and it will be a drain for both of us.
Action Step –
- Write down one specific, measurable result you want to deliver.
- Then, list three essential qualities (Lakshanas) a person absolutely must have to achieve that result using your expertise.
- This list is your new filter for client attraction.
Care deeply about those who are ready to rise. You can’t help those who don’t want to help themselves.